Hearts Dancing Off-Key

"If love is a musical, I want
better choreography."-HumorSmith

Our overly romantic media fueled view of love notwithstanding, we all still seem to want to believe in the happily, not just ever after but right now, dammit! Newsflash: love is work. It can be fun work, but it is still a job, and I think that's where most of us lose it.

Even if you adore your job, you will have days when it's sheer drudgery. Same with your relationships. You have to do a little legwork at first if you expect to go dancing away with the object of your reflection anytime soon, reflection being what most people look for: someone to not only complement them but mirror their tastes and values. Wake up, for crap's sake! It's a love affair, not a grocery list. You want value, clip some coupons. You want lovevity*, get to work.

I understand this, really I do. The key question is what comes afterglow? Many relationships will not stand up to the cold, revealing light of day, or even the bedroom light; realities of life just seem to get in the way of the fantasy of romance. We need to find something to hold onto when the crazed lust state fades away, as it surely will. If you've been with someone more than 5 years and you're still crazed, call me right now; I have some questions for you.

Some of us choose to hang onto the fantasy of Hollywood musical love, which is fine as far as it goes, but do you really want to dance in high heels while it's raining? See? There's our old pal reality waiting to cut in. There's also the strong possibility your partner isn't Fred or Ginger and then what? You ever try walking to a waltz? We all need to get a grip, and I don't mean on our lover. We must find a way to balance the romantic with the mundane, the love with the bills, the belles with the balls.










If you want to see a film that hits some very true home runs out of the love ballpark, check out "Forgeting Sarah Marshall".Yeah, I know it's a comedy, but I'm sure you're aware there is truth in comedy. All through this movie, I was filled with a "been there, done that" feeling, and it wasn't always funny. True comedy often isn't funny as much as it is painful. Same with love. Don't misunderstand, I still believe in romance. I'm just not dancing anymore.

*romantic longevity



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